I have counseled hundreds of marriages and it is clear that the marriages which withstand circumstances are the ones who have life spoken over it. Those marriages that fail are those which received words of death. What are words of death? Divorce, hate, resentment, anger, bitterness, anything negative. Words of life speak of hope, love, kindness, patience, peace, gentleness, never failing, never giving up. The moment someone says they are "done" is the moment the power of death comes to a marriage. Marriage is a commitment, a covenant for life and the moment divorce is spoken, death is brought to the marriage. Negativity turns sickness into death! 

Choosing growth and transformation brings life to a marriage. Choosing to speak positively instead of negatively despite what you see in the natural and despite the circumstances, brings life and overcomes the infirmities in the marriage. It brings healing where there is sickness.  If you have ever felt "fed up" with your partner, hopeless about your marriage, and considered separation or divorce, you should look at the words that you speak about your marriage and over your spouse. 

I challenge you to examine your words.  What you speak is a direct result of the condition of your heart.  I challenge you to look at yourself, rather than your spouse.  I challenge you to choose life over death.  To choose life-giving words such as those you spoke at your ceremony..."I do".  I do want a healthy marriage.  I do believe we can get through this.  I do maintain my commitment in sickness and in health.  I do forgive.  I will move forward.  We will grow in our marriage.  We will experience a complete transformation! 

Does the thought of speaking words of life over your spouse and your marriage feel overwhelming? Do you feel that your relationship has needs beyond what you can presently do? You are not alone and i can offer you additional support. if would like some extra help through relationship coaching click here

xoxo Crystal